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HUMILITY + INTEGRITY = Phenomenon Character!

Published on  February 22, 2014 

Many children have been raised to feel that certain public accomplishments are the ultimate fulfillment of life; especially those of public acclamation. Later in life, you will realize that your most valuable and productive moments were those of an average day with friends and relatives whose talents and accomplishment were yet processing. God has a way of equalizing insecurities (false security) so that our focus return and remain in him, with a heart of humility toward our fellowman. 

 Humility and Integrity are the greatest showcase of genuine THANKSGIVING; our truest form of Godly Worship. We should never become mislead by friends in our society and assume their expectations for judging others.  Belief in  God and education should polish our behavior for the journey of un- expectancy and the people we meet. Parents, guardians, and mentors share these expectations. 

At the end of the day, as we face life most critical crisis, we will remember that it was the love of family, friends, and their kind words that we cherish most.

Falls are not as painful in life....    when we practice prayer on our knees.

HUMILITY + INTEGRITY = Phenomenon Character!

How Children Learn Thankfulness & Arrogance

Published on November 19, 2017

Teachable Moments:

“Actions speak louder than words. People retain what was observed and /or demonstrated. I love the innocence of children and their honest emotions. They are so transparent. Either they like you, love you or dislike you. Committed parents rear their children to be courteous by replying, thank you – What about those suppressed and sacrificial acts of kindness that went ignored?”

Children quickly recognize hypocrisy, and as a result- may find themselves silent in an environment where adults are role playing various behaviors. Meanwhile, child is observing parents and thinking; What- I know my parents didn’t? Shortly afterward, parent immediately returns to the batching behavior.

Children will never know and appreciate the contributions of others if parent are not honest and responsible enough to tell them (sacrificial gifts, cards, attended events, medical visits & chores, job placements, emotional & financial support, food, clothing, etc.). This leaves children to believe their family household lived an isolated lifestyle and extended family members left them to struggle alone. It is important that children are told the names of people who helped them and their family along the way; for it will encourage them to give back. Reflections are important and a “thank you” is priceless when remembered from long ago.

We are living in a “selfish world” where nothing is FREE and without strings attached. We, as parents and caring adults, must be strategic in acknowledging the contributions of others so that humility is developed in our children. If not, the spirit of a one-man’s island, false accomplishments and arrogance will become part of their generational character. Fact is, no matter how grateful and dedicated we were as parents, we cannot deny the contributions and positive impact of others in our children and family. It is imperative that parents tell children the sacrificial acts of kindness made to them from their own family members and other caring adults. These actions nurture the spirit of love, unity, humility, thanksgiving and appreciation; discourage and rejects arrogance, resentment, “entitlement” and the need to be socially advanced - at any cost.

When acts of kindness are voiced by the parents, - children and adult children deem it authentic. Consequentially, if not validated by parents, sacrificial acts of kindness will continue to go ignored and remain questionable throughout generations. Thanksgiving is an excellent time to redefine “foundational thanksgiving,” appreciation for all the Lord has done, and gratitude toward the individuals whom God used to be a blessing to you.

Grateful Hearts Will Make a Kind and Peaceful World!

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Education Reform  -   FORWARD!

Posted on Wednesday, September 12, 2018 7:01 PM

The question that ponders heart is:   why hasn’t the reality of education reform - ever addressed the physical abuse of licensed educators who are without representation?

Most legal firms will not offer any assistance, only excuses. Education is a high profiled national issue in our country! High profiled celebrities, corporate america, religious leaders, military leaders, human service entrepreneurs and everyday citizens are held accountable WHILE the physical abuse and psychological demeanor of teachers continues to go ignored and void? 

Sometimes, it seems that the game changer’s ultimate -responsibility is to maintain workplace silence among staff members, especially the ones with higher stake interest and to  those teachers of less corporate influences. It would also be interesting to explore the diverse percentage of exploded victim educators : Black & Brown vs non color - for male vs female.

The rallying voice is always TEST SCORES! How can teachers teach in a hostile environment when license is threaten for any type of resistance? How can educators teach children to experience educational success when the learning environment is hostile, dangerous and insecure? Formal educational institutions do not prepare teachers for this type of certification. Many times a great administrator is assumed to be one who demonstrates the greatest manipulative skills and silence staff for $$$$ rewards . 

I cannot understand why bystander colleagues and team members  remain bias and knowingly TURN their heads to allow fellow colleagues to sacrificially stand alone / terminated?


Published on November 8, 2017

Excerpts: Chapter Eleven,   FAMILY ReUNION

"Positive relationships (not finances or education) are the most important factor for a healthy family lifestyle. It is this component that causes an adult child or family member to revisit the original home or home property years after they have relocated and generations have passed on.

When individuals have spent quality time together, in a supporting atmosphere, their nonverbal communication goes beyond the spoken word. It is powerful when someone can honestly say, “I really know that person” or “I know what they really meant.”

Whether the parties are parents and children, adult partners, married couples or casual friends, bonding will reveal understanding and the intent of the heart through active listening and body language. When family members reflect this level of growth, resolving conflicts, not easily taking offense, and not being willing to accept any negative statements against family members become easier. All family members should be intentional about creating and maintaining a loving home atmosphere."

Oh, give thanks unto the Lord ... for he is good!

School Schedules and Working Parents

Published February 14, 2008

My heart goes out to the single and divorced working parents. I truly understand the financial and schedule challenges for educating our children. One of the least discussed topics for future parenting is "proactive - parenting training and interventions for early parenting vs. career and academic preparation. Life doesn't give us guarantees - even for the best planned strategy. What I do know is we should sound the alarm loud and clear to teens and young adults of the realistic challenges parents face on a daily base for parenting and careers. Many parents have had to prioritize their parental obligations vs. careers until the child older years - often with great financial sacrifices, but well worth the investment. Parenting is both sacrificial and rewarding. TIMING IS KEY!

Read More : School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12; Family ReUnion at

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Positive Impacts of Early Christian Education in Children


(Family and Christian Education)

As I reminisce the calculated thoughts of adult leaders, I am reminded that most adults judge from their own experiences or observations. The educational system rely on a series of tangible evaluations to determine the validity of a child's knowledge and behaviors. However, when it come to a child’s credit-ability (knowledge, comprehension, and application) of his/her Faith - and relationship with Jesus, some adults / leaders respond casually to substantiate his own authority in luau of the child’s age, limited knowledge of the child's Christian Education family history / worship practices or the assumed Christian Education level of the child.

The times we are living in today mandated a rooted salvation and is imperative that children are introduced and taught to build a progressive- personal relationship with Jesus.  I ponder the question: “ How is it possible that some professionals agree that children’s cognitive and intellectual developments are enhanced through parental interactions during the prenatal stages (through voice/tone, touching - rubbing abdomen/ sensitivity, reading - language & vocabulary development) which creates advance comprehension and strong intellectual abilities in the unborn child, but when pertaining to spiritual matters ( such as the child’s sensitivity level & his/her courage to openly proclaim the Holy Spirit naming Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior) the child’s confession is denied? People are seeking affirmation all over the world. So much so that news reporters are sharing impacts from least to most. All great leader will tell you that their success was credited to their faith. It is very simple, the younger the child for commitment, greater the opportunities to utilize time for GREATNESS! Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and Scientist and Educator, George Washington Carver – openly credits their faith as a youth.

 Why would a Christian Leader procrastinate and hinder the planting and growth of such life changing – Eternal Seed in a young innocence child – before corruption?

Children and Families are experiencing tragedies everyday. Many of these tragedies are sudden and seemly unbearable. Usually a Clergy or Group Counselors are assigned to offer comfort and grieving support by connecting them to a religious founder, psychologist, or an author of a bestselling grieving book.

He that worship God, must worship him in spirit and in truth (John 4:24). Know no man after the flesh, but after the spirit (2 Corinthians 5:16). Suffer little children to come unto me and forbid them not, for of such is the Kingdom of heaven (Matthew 19:14). Let Him In (Revelation 3:20)

How can some Christians Leaders tell children to deny Christ now because you are to young in hope to embrace him later on when you are older? When their hearts and minds are no longer interested and temptation is so much great?

God, our Father, and His Son, Jesus – do not know man or children by their ages, but by their spirit and heart toward him. God knows the intents and motives of Man’s heart! Innocence – “unrehearsed” --- hearts of boys, girls, men, and women are what God desires to use. One should consider the nature of the child who is proclaiming Jesus? Humble, Peaceful, Arrogant, Disrespectful, and Violent? I agree that Christ forgives all…. But we must not fail to remember that God does communicate with any quiet, sensitive spirit who desire and love him. Don’t be mislead by individual personality types. When a child publicly acknowledges Jesus as his/her savior – it is serious and could be very detrimental if a leader responded outside the character of Christ with rejection.

I truly believe that the Holy Spirit knows all things. He has given “HIMSELF” as a conclusive gift to be utilized by everyone, regardless of age to successfully survive challenges and optical of life. In other words, adults characterize the teen years as being most challenging for teens when expectations are high and adversities overwhelming. It is during this period of life when teens face numerous private issues, who can they talk to when they are fearful and standing alone? Who will give them the strength and courage to speak out? To decide which group or situation to say “NO” to OR having the strength to expose wrong doers? At this point , to a child/teen - just knowing God (the person, or who they heard talked about in church) is not enough! They truly desire the need to talk to a friend, one whom they have a relationship with and above all, trust. – The God that was denied of him/her when their hearts were tender and receptive. Now that the teen has bonded with destructive peers, made some wrong choices to hide their pain – Now, everyone wants to gladly, forcefully, give him/her JESUS! How would Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr respond to this?

Question is : How might this tragedy have been avoided if the spiritual leader had embraced the child’s confession and provided ongoing - nurtured - spiritual growth to he/she and his/her family?

I remember many years ago, when I owned a Christian Preschool where biblical teaching and devotion were part of our daily devotion. One of our children suddenly died due to a fatal hidden illness. This was our first experience to process this type of grief at a school of young children and I regretted having to greet and inform the children and parents the following day. I prayed to God for guidance in sharing such sad news effectively. As we began devotion, the Lord immediately gave me insight of how to handle this announcement. We followed our normal routine with our standard bible questions -with so much joy, excitement, and praise! That afternoon during pickup time, the children were anxious to share the news with their parents of the death of their friend/classmate. Parents rushed to me saying, “Ms. Wanda what is this about _______has gone up to heaven to be with God?” There were absolutely “NO Tear” through out the day from anyone! All the children played, ate, and slept as usual. They actually made our day joyous!

IT IS IMPORTANT, ESSENTIAL , and URGENT– to give children prenatal and early childhood Christian Education at home first. Even if the child was born to unbelieving parents, it is still the authority and solvency of God to render prophetic callings as he pleases. Greatness and Prophetic Callings throughout the bible have always been initiated from prenatal and birth of leaders as children. God ordains the path and journey for those he will pour into.

Don’t turn children away or deny them the ownership for beginning a successful life's journey, ….. They are going to NEED JESUS!


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Parents | Teachers & COOL DADS

Video: Dropping Out of School "IS NOT" an Option!

Parents Going To School (Parents, Teachers, and COOL DADS)


· Class schedule

· learning & Teaching Styles

· Integrity

· Compassion / Passion

· Communication / Availability

Many students are excited about planning their careers and enrolling in classes for that pathway. Students become very frustrated when forced to take classes “they feel” do not connect with their goals and become less motivated for applying themselves. Parents can be very instrumental in supervising students schedule and/or providing enrichment opportunities for connecting that professional area. If parents ignore this issue and allow it to remain un-addressed, then classroom discipline, class participation, and delinquent assignments may escalate.

Parents must be able to identify the learning style of each child. Children, parents, and teachers learn and study differently. Once the learning style has been established, parents will understand how to guide children in their studies and how to effectively prepare for test.  All Students are very sensitive to the integrity and passion level of their teacher(s). Many students behave differently in the presence of authorities and parents; however, the students’ morals are reflected in he/she daily observations. FAIRNESS and HONESTY will build or destroy any school environment! Students may not always admit it, but they expect to be held accountable for their actions with unconditional love, fairness, and honesty.

After over twenty-five years ago, my son recently met one of my former students at his work place. When my former student realized that my son was his teacher’s son, he said: “She was hard, but she was fair.” I guess you would have to be an educator to understand the sentiments of that statement. I smiled with a warm feeling inside.  Whatever discrepancies a student  experience, unconditional love - accountability and inclusion will motivate them to success. As you can see, a school day may include many obstacles, but TEAM work is the key! 

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Consquences of Children's

Wants vs Needs

January 15, 2018

Want - An optional desire. No danger for existing if left unfulfilled. Emotional disappointment.

Need - Devastating consequences if not met. All humans will seeks other options to fulfill void.

5 - Researched Levels of "Human Needs" According to Abraham Maslow

Hierarchy of Need


  • Level One - Physiological Care : Food , Shelter, Diet, Bed rest, Clothing, Health related issues

  • Level Two – Safety: Respect, Discipline, Social Laws – rewards & consequences, Safe Home & School Environment, Bulling.

  • Level Three- Social: Inclusion for home and school, Love, Respect, Accountability.

  • Level Four-Esteem: Self worth, Praise & Encouragement, Positive Self Esteem, Physical Support.

  • Level Five- Self Fulfillment / Actualization -Personal Achievement: Realizing personal potential.

If these NEEDS are not met, the child or individual will seek comfort from any other available source.

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