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Struggling Teens

Struggling Teens
"Behavior: Chemical or Emotional ?"
 Many, many years ago I remember teaching a wonderful classroom of students.  One male student was very respectful, but it was always a challenge to remind him each morning to not sleep during first period class.  He would comply.  Several years after him graduating, I met him in a local store and we began reflecting on many school events and positive class conversations.   He then asked me, Ms Prowell, “Do you remember when I was always so sleepy during your first period class?”  I answered, yes.  He said, “Ms. Prowell - I was drunk.”    I was totally taken.  He (now an adult) assured me that he and his family were all well now.   I must ask you, the reader- as parents and educators,  “What service options  are we providing students for getting back on track when their  behavior and conduct  has become repeatedly  irrational , unpredictable,   and progressive?”  Is it possible that the child could be experiencing chemical dependence?  Because they are minors, are there any Pro-Active treatment options available BEFORE a crime is committed?  Most employers have a clause in their company’s policy that allows employees to enter voluntary treatment and after successful completion, are able to return to work.   Our youth face many family and relationship obstacles.  Their classroom misbehavior  may not just be a discipline problem!  They may NEED help that only a caring system/organization could recognize and advocate assistance.  
 Read more in "School Readiness for Parents & Children,
You cannot deal with a teen’s other emotional problems, nor can they if they are self-medicating with alcohol, pot, cocaine, inhalants, crystal meth or other drugs until first they get clean and sober. After detox and rehab, it is important they keep in a 12-step recovery program like AA and NA where they learn new behavior and a new, disciplined, spiritual and honest way of dealing with themselves and others.   

The Most Dangerous Words A Parent Could Ever Say: "DON'T CALL ME"

   . . . . Don't Call Me !
Alarming Words That Demand  Critical Intervention
Some time parenting can be very stressful.  Not necessarily the child, but maybe circumstances within a given day.  It is obvious when parents have exhausted all areas of remediation.  Many times, all parents need to say is please help me and be willing to receive the level of help that is necessary to create the desired results.
Children, I mean those eighteen year and under can be very challenging at times.  Educators and other youth leaders and administrator are committed for the long hall to advocate assistance and provide academic and behavioral intervention to parents for his/her students.  Parents should stay in the game and never give up!  When you withdraw your support and say:  "Don't Call Me"  and willfully .... not attend meetings and appointments ,   it creates fear for maintaining a safe environment.
Parent Involvement is not an option,  IT'S CRITICAL  for successful students.
"School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12"

Intentional Parenting for ....BACK TO SCHOOL !

 Parent Involvement
Guidance | Confidence | Positive - Results | Peace of  Mind | Student Achievement | Inclusion |Results
(I want to hear from you)
Have you ever had a challenge and needed another voice to intervene by relaying the same facts as you stated, but in a different  voice,  from another perspective……   and they HEARD IT?   It really happens…….  Try It Today ….  Silent reading is a WINNER!
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“School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12”  
What was the greatest challenge for you and your student last school year?       
What Fears do you have for the forth coming school year?
Remember:  The teachers are your friends, let them help.

Family Literacy WorkShops

Believe it or not, no matter how wonderful and effective the presenter’s message and activities may be a great number of adults / parents may be offended just by personal feelings of rejection  “not being a good parent.”  I remember back in the days when I  heard many parents admitted in front of their children, their inadequacies  and lack of opportunity as a child for not  getting a good education.  Many things they didn’t learn; therefore would readily correct and demand diligence from their children for a better life.  Very few people are admitting any inadequacy  in today’s society.  Most of the reading materials are not written in a format that holds the attention of the parents who need it most, and a quick read.  It is impossible to relate to a parent or anyone who feels offended or inadequate.  Therefore, the approach must be “relationship focused” more so than teaching focused, or "telling focused."  Environment and facilitator / teacher are “key” for a successful parenting program.  Local church facilities could be an awesome location for familiarity, coupled with a “professional - humanitarian facilitator. “  All parent reading materials should be simple and loving  in language and relevant to their everyday challenges and experiences.  Most of the time, the information that is given to the parent who needs it most, language is “over their head” and does not connect.  That could be why certain “unprofitable – non classroom connecting - written materials” are read more frequently.  Most youth and adults are reading, question is: What are they reading?  My experience has been that approach is a very valuable resource for effective parenting.  Like the children, once a relationship has been earned, learning and advancement occurs for the entire family.  I strongly suggest (1) Availability of selective short, to the point, real life reading materials (2) Series of short “follow up” relating FREE speaker’s topics / films - with ending refreshment & fellowship (3) Give parents options for continued communication.  (4)  Teacher / staff do general “How are you doing?”  How can I assist you type follow up calls – Customer service.  Most importantly - respect the scheduling and time of the parents when planning such events. Always start on time and end on time, regardless of the number in attendance.    Read more in “School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12    

From A Classroom Teacher - “SCHOOL READINESS – 2013” and Abraham Maslow !

 Chapter by chapter guidance is crucial for adults understanding the physical, social, emotional, and intellectual needs of  children, regardless of their ages.  All humans have the same needs.  It is urgent that parents and caregivers are able to differentiate needs vs. wants and understand the consequences for not meeting a human’s needs.  School Readiness for Parents & children, K-12 gives chapter by chapter, school life- answers according to Child Psychologist - Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
 LifeLONG  Benefits: School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12   
Peace of Mind |Student Achievement | Confidence |Solutions | Results
 Level One -   Physical care of children:  Diet, Bed rest, Clothing – dress code &essentials, Health issues and medication guidelines.
Chapter 1:  Home Is Where the Heart Is
Level Two Social-Safety: Etiquettes, Respect, Discipline, Social Laws – rewards & consequences
Chapter 2:  Behavior Expectations for Effective Learning
 Chapter 3: The School Handbook 
 Chapter 6: Count Up the Cost – Social Laws
Level Three-Emotional: Low self esteem, Positive self esteem, Needing to Fit In, Needs vs.Wants
Chapter4:  Handbook Scenario
Chapter 5:  Who Am I?
Level Four-Intellectual: Parenting, Mentor, Career planning, Networking
Chapter 3:  Homework, a Family Effort.      
 Chapter 7: Parents: The Parents the Primary Career Coach
Level Five- Self Actualization -Personal Achievement: Realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences. Helping others to achieve self actualization
Chapter 8:  Leadership in Action, Graduation
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1. Authenticate and own me publically.
2. Always tell me the truth.
3. Include me in family & private events. Call me regularly-(that means
    you love me).
3. Insist that I respect my mother.
4. Mentor me to be treated as a lady or to act as a gentlemen.
5. Take me to church with your family and sometime everyone
    could visit my church.
6. Be my leader: Provide for me and teach me discipline and the value
    of work.
7. YOU, Never disrespect my mama!
8. Please don't sleep over in our house -  if you are married!
9.  Treat me and all of my siblings fairly, regardless of your relationship
     with their mother(s).
10. Help me to respect and love my Daddy.
Read more:  "Unresolved, The Blessings of A Resolved Lifestyle"


1. Show your friends that you love spending time with me.
2. Show me that you love and respect your wife / my mom.
3. Insist that I respect my mother.
4. Mentor me to be treated as a lady or to act as a gentlemen.
5. Let me remember seeing you reading your bible at home and having
    personal prayers.
6. Be the leader in our home.
7. Tell me the truth!
8. Don't sleep around, or do drugs - it’s not okay!
9. You authenticate and make me know all of  my siblings.
10. Help me respect the "Daddy" I love.
Read more in  "Unresolved, The Blessings of A Resolved Lifestyle."

Children Love To Say...."I'M GONNA TELL MY DADDY!"

Many, many years ago my mother shared with me that a young lady's father had deceased.  Later in this young lady's life, as a teenager, an older man was speaking disrepectfully to her.   She looked at the man and said: "I'm gonna tell my Daddy!"  ... That man immediately left her alone and walked away!
Isn't it amazing how powerful a Father's NAME is!
 FATHERS, YOU ARE an essential part of the family!