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School Schedules and Working Parents

My heart goes out to the single and divorced working parents.  I truly understand the financial and schedule challenges for educating our children.  One of the least discussed topics for future parenting is "proactive - parenting training  and interventions for early parenting vs. career and academic preparation.  Life doesn't give us guarantees - even  for the best planned strategy.  What I do know is we should sound the alarm loud and clear to teens and young adults of the realistic challenges parents face on a daily base for parenting and careers.  Many parents have had to prioritize their parental obligations vs. careers until the  child older years - often with great financial sacrifices, but well worth the investment.  Parenting is both sacrificial and rewarding.  TIMING IS KEY! 

Read More :  School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12; Family ReUnion at  

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The Most Dangerous Words A Parent Could Ever Say: "DON'T CALL ME"

   . . . . Don't Call Me !
Alarming Words That Demand  Critical Intervention
Some time parenting can be very stressful.  Not necessarily the child, but maybe circumstances within a given day.  It is obvious when parents have exhausted all areas of remediation.  Many times, all parents need to say is please help me and be willing to receive the level of help that is necessary to create the desired results.
Children, I mean those eighteen year and under can be very challenging at times.  Educators and other youth leaders and administrator are committed for the long hall to advocate assistance and provide academic and behavioral intervention to parents for his/her students.  Parents should stay in the game and never give up!  When you withdraw your support and say:  "Don't Call Me"  and willfully .... not attend meetings and appointments ,   it creates fear for maintaining a safe environment.
Parent Involvement is not an option,  IT'S CRITICAL  for successful students.
"School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12"

Intentional Parenting for ....BACK TO SCHOOL !

 Parent Involvement
Guidance | Confidence | Positive - Results | Peace of  Mind | Student Achievement | Inclusion |Results
(I want to hear from you)
Have you ever had a challenge and needed another voice to intervene by relaying the same facts as you stated, but in a different  voice,  from another perspective……   and they HEARD IT?   It really happens…….  Try It Today ….  Silent reading is a WINNER!
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“School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12”  
What was the greatest challenge for you and your student last school year?       
What Fears do you have for the forth coming school year?
Remember:  The teachers are your friends, let them help.

Family Literacy WorkShops

Believe it or not, no matter how wonderful and effective the presenter’s message and activities may be a great number of adults / parents may be offended just by personal feelings of rejection  “not being a good parent.”  I remember back in the days when I  heard many parents admitted in front of their children, their inadequacies  and lack of opportunity as a child for not  getting a good education.  Many things they didn’t learn; therefore would readily correct and demand diligence from their children for a better life.  Very few people are admitting any inadequacy  in today’s society.  Most of the reading materials are not written in a format that holds the attention of the parents who need it most, and a quick read.  It is impossible to relate to a parent or anyone who feels offended or inadequate.  Therefore, the approach must be “relationship focused” more so than teaching focused, or "telling focused."  Environment and facilitator / teacher are “key” for a successful parenting program.  Local church facilities could be an awesome location for familiarity, coupled with a “professional - humanitarian facilitator. “  All parent reading materials should be simple and loving  in language and relevant to their everyday challenges and experiences.  Most of the time, the information that is given to the parent who needs it most, language is “over their head” and does not connect.  That could be why certain “unprofitable – non classroom connecting - written materials” are read more frequently.  Most youth and adults are reading, question is: What are they reading?  My experience has been that approach is a very valuable resource for effective parenting.  Like the children, once a relationship has been earned, learning and advancement occurs for the entire family.  I strongly suggest (1) Availability of selective short, to the point, real life reading materials (2) Series of short “follow up” relating FREE speaker’s topics / films - with ending refreshment & fellowship (3) Give parents options for continued communication.  (4)  Teacher / staff do general “How are you doing?”  How can I assist you type follow up calls – Customer service.  Most importantly - respect the scheduling and time of the parents when planning such events. Always start on time and end on time, regardless of the number in attendance.    Read more in “School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12    

From A Classroom Teacher - “SCHOOL READINESS – 2013” and Abraham Maslow !

 Chapter by chapter guidance is crucial for adults understanding the physical, social, emotional, and intellectual needs of  children, regardless of their ages.  All humans have the same needs.  It is urgent that parents and caregivers are able to differentiate needs vs. wants and understand the consequences for not meeting a human’s needs.  School Readiness for Parents & children, K-12 gives chapter by chapter, school life- answers according to Child Psychologist - Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
 LifeLONG  Benefits: School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12   
Peace of Mind |Student Achievement | Confidence |Solutions | Results
 Level One -   Physical care of children:  Diet, Bed rest, Clothing – dress code &essentials, Health issues and medication guidelines.
Chapter 1:  Home Is Where the Heart Is
Level Two Social-Safety: Etiquettes, Respect, Discipline, Social Laws – rewards & consequences
Chapter 2:  Behavior Expectations for Effective Learning
 Chapter 3: The School Handbook 
 Chapter 6: Count Up the Cost – Social Laws
Level Three-Emotional: Low self esteem, Positive self esteem, Needing to Fit In, Needs vs.Wants
Chapter4:  Handbook Scenario
Chapter 5:  Who Am I?
Level Four-Intellectual: Parenting, Mentor, Career planning, Networking
Chapter 3:  Homework, a Family Effort.      
 Chapter 7: Parents: The Parents the Primary Career Coach
Level Five- Self Actualization -Personal Achievement: Realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences. Helping others to achieve self actualization
Chapter 8:  Leadership in Action, Graduation
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1. Authenticate and own me publically.
2. Always tell me the truth.
3. Include me in family & private events. Call me regularly-(that means
    you love me).
3. Insist that I respect my mother.
4. Mentor me to be treated as a lady or to act as a gentlemen.
5. Take me to church with your family and sometime everyone
    could visit my church.
6. Be my leader: Provide for me and teach me discipline and the value
    of work.
7. YOU, Never disrespect my mama!
8. Please don't sleep over in our house -  if you are married!
9.  Treat me and all of my siblings fairly, regardless of your relationship
     with their mother(s).
10. Help me to respect and love my Daddy.
Read more:  "Unresolved, The Blessings of A Resolved Lifestyle"


1. Show your friends that you love spending time with me.
2. Show me that you love and respect your wife / my mom.
3. Insist that I respect my mother.
4. Mentor me to be treated as a lady or to act as a gentlemen.
5. Let me remember seeing you reading your bible at home and having
    personal prayers.
6. Be the leader in our home.
7. Tell me the truth!
8. Don't sleep around, or do drugs - it’s not okay!
9. You authenticate and make me know all of  my siblings.
10. Help me respect the "Daddy" I love.
Read more in  "Unresolved, The Blessings of A Resolved Lifestyle."


1.  Additions of Family Members (any type)
2.  Loss of a Family Member
3.  Ambiguous Loss (prison, missing in action, missing)
4.  Sudden Change (income, social status)
5.  On Going Family Conflict
6.  Caring for a Dependent or Disabled Family Member, Parent or Adult
7.  Demoralizing Events (abortion, unemployed, poverty, criminal
     prosecution, racist)
Don't walk in denial; get the help needed to move forward: 
Read more in "UnReSolved, The Blessings of A ReSolved Lifestyle."

EXCERPTS: Why Do Adults Disc Their PROBLEMS on Children?

Insecurities and distrust are rampant in relationships.  It is not uncommon to lose trust in someone, but relaying that information to someone else could have a devastating effect upon the person whom you choose to report  and discuss that information.  Sometime adults confide in their minor children.  Children do not process information in the same manner as adults. As a consequence, minor children  could fall into a false sense of loyalty and lose their emotional balance in the process. 
We can make it so much easier for children by being their adult caregiver / parent, and by seeking other trustworthy Christian adults for personal advice.  It is very simple:  Children have enough to manage as it is, and are thus not able to handle the adversities of adults.
Our ability to relate to and protect children will make a world of differences in their natural and spiritual growth and their abilitiy to handle their later adult struggles.
Excerpts from "Unresolved, The Blessings of A Resolved Lifestyle."   ISBN#   978-1-58909-745-2

“Intentional Denial” or “Voluntary Dismissal” of Under Age Abusers ?

There seems to be a  madness on the rise.  It is called “Intentional Denial” or “Voluntary Dismissal” of under age abusers due to social status, popularity, and economics!   Much attention has been drawn to “school bullying.”   It appears to be a joke when, in many cases, parents encourage and allows home bullying among siblings.  Furthermore, some of the same parents are requesting emergency protection from public safety.  When this bullying behavior is carried into a disciplined, law abiding classroom – learning is hindered and the safety of everyone becomes at risk.  When children live in a society that does not provide fearful and undesirable alternatives for abusing not only their peers, but now adult -   URGENT ACTIONS MUST BE PUT INTO  PLACE.  SCHOOLS  have now become the target environment for adult abuse.   According to the developmental stages of children, a child’s age is determined by both chronological and, maturational;   meaning the child’s actual number age vs. the child’s maturation level.  A child’s actual age and appearance could be that of a fifteen year old, but emotionally, socially, or intellectually – has the actions and judgment of a nine year old. 
Why is it that the same crime can be administered between birthdays and the chronological eighteen year old child – now an adult, endures a harsh adult punishment because of his/her age?    In many ways, this eighteen year old is fearful and unprepared for life’s consequences because the adults, in their lives, were negligent in providing – age appropriate accountability.
Society gives children mainly two options for successful growth & development:  Parenting and Law Enforcement.   Social laws have nothing to do with emotional attachment.   Public safety reminds us:  “Do the Crime, Do the time!   We have wonderful, wonderful boys and girls who are in need of guidance.  Imagine the effect of mandatory (PAC) parental and child “Team Intervention /Back on Track” type of social law classes that includes an elevated curriculum for repeaters.   
It takes a whole village to raise a child.   When children disregard the respect to adults and are made to feel confident in their direct approach of such, intervention has become urgent!   The characteristics of adults are very different from those of children.  The law is designed to protect both.   Let’s become PRO-ACTIVE   as parents so we can guide our children with loving arms.     More issues are discussed in my new book:
Author, Wanda J.R. Prowell