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Consquences of Unfulfilled Needs
- Want - An optional desire. No danger for existing if left unfulfilled. Emotional disappointment.
- Need - Devastating consequences if not met. All humans will seeks other options to fulfill void.
5 - Researched Levels of "Human Needs" According to Abraham Maslow
Hierarchy of Need.
- Level One - Physiological Care : Food , Shelter, Diet, Bed rest, Clothing,
Health related issues
- Level Two – Safety: Respect, Discipline, Social Laws – rewards & consequences, Safe Home & School Environment, Bulling.
- Level Three- Social: Inclusion for home and school, Love, Respect, Accountability.
- Level Four-Esteem: Self worth, Praise & Encouragement, Positive Self Esteem, Physical Support.
- Level Five- Self Fulfillment / Actualization -Personal
Achievement: Realizing personal potential.
If these NEEDS are not met, the child or individual will seek comfort from any other available source.
SCHOOL READINESS for PARENTS & CHILDREN, K-12
Level One - Physiological
Home Is Where the Heart Is
Level Two – Safety
Behavior Expectations for Effective Learning
3: The School Handbook
6: Count Up the Cost – Social Laws
Level Three- Social
Who Am I?
Homework, a Family Effort.
7: Parents: The Parents the Primary Career Coach
Level Five- Self Fulfillment / Actualization
Leadership in Action, Graduation
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HUMILITY + INTEGRITY = Phenomenon Character!
Many children have been raised to feel that certain public
accomplishments are the ultimate fulfillment of life; especially those of
public acclamation. Later in life, you
will realize that your most valuable and productive moments were those of an
average day with friends and relatives whose talents and accomplishment were yet
processing. God has a way of equalizing insecurities
(false security) so that our focus return and remain in him, with a heart of
humility toward our fellowman. Humility
and Integrity is the greatest showcase of genuine THANKSGIVING; our truest form
of Godly Worship. We should never become
mislead by friends in our society and assume their expectations for judging “the
assumed” short comings of others. God and education should polish our behavior
for the journey of un- expectancy and the people we meet. Parents, guardians, and mentors share these
expectations. At the end of the day, as
we face life most critical crisis, we will remember that it was the love, friends,
and kind words that we cherish most.”
The fall is not as great when we are on our knees.
HUMILITY + INTEGRITY = Phenomenon Character!
Because He First Loved Me!
I have read this passage so many times before and have heard it preached just as much. Believe me when I tell you that in today’s society, sincere relationships are in the minor and are of high demand ! There is a frightening edge to assuming motives, integrity, honesty, and provision. Conversations must be strategic, intentional,and confirmed. Much of what we do must be guided by a power “greater than ourselves.” How can we trust the voice of a stranger or have confidence in the familiar? Somehow, “Because HE first Loved Me” always breathe a fresh morning fragrance to begin any day!
Demonstrated love, commitment, desires, and goals can be easily followed; In turn becomes a “Product of a Resolved Lifestyle.”
How are you pursuing your resolved lifestyle?
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"Behavior: Chemical or Emotional ?"
Many, many years ago I remember teaching a wonderful classroom of students. One male student was very respectful, but it was always a challenge to remind him each morning to not sleep during first period class. He would comply. Several years after him graduating, I met him in a local store and we began reflecting on many school events and positive class conversations. He then asked me, Ms Prowell, “Do you remember when I was always so sleepy during your first period class?” I answered, yes. He said, “Ms. Prowell - I was drunk.” I was totally taken. He (now an adult) assured me that he and his family were all well now. I must ask you, the reader- as parents and educators, “What service options are we providing students for getting back on track when their behavior and conduct has become repeatedly irrational , unpredictable, and progressive?” Is it possible that the child could be experiencing chemical dependence? Because they are minors, are there any Pro-Active treatment options available BEFORE a crime is committed? Most employers have a clause in their company’s policy that allows employees to enter voluntary treatment and after successful completion, are able to return to work. Our youth face many family and relationship obstacles. Their classroom misbehavior may not just be a discipline problem! They may NEED help that only a caring system/organization could recognize and advocate assistance.
You cannot deal with a teen’s other emotional problems, nor can they if they are self-medicating with alcohol, pot, cocaine, inhalants, crystal meth or other drugs until first they get clean and sober. After detox and rehab, it is important they keep in a 12-step recovery program like AA and NA where they learn new behavior and a new, disciplined, spiritual and honest way of dealing with themselves and others. http://www.projectknow.com/research/discipline/
. . . . Don't Call Me !
Alarming Words That Demand Critical Intervention
Some time parenting can be very stressful. Not necessarily the child, but maybe circumstances within a given day. It is obvious when parents have exhausted all areas of remediation. Many times, all parents need to say is please help me and be willing to receive the level of help that is necessary to create the desired results.
Children, I mean those eighteen year and under can be very challenging at times. Educators and other youth leaders and administrator are committed for the long hall to advocate assistance and provide academic and behavioral intervention to parents for his/her students. Parents should stay in the game and never give up! When you withdraw your support and say: "Don't Call Me" and willfully .... not attend meetings and appointments , it creates fear for maintaining a safe environment.
Parent Involvement is not an option, IT'S CRITICAL for successful students.
"School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12"
Guidance | Confidence | Positive - Results | Peace of Mind | Student Achievement | Inclusion |Results
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“School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12”
What was the greatest challenge for you and your student last school year?
What Fears do you have for the forth coming school year?
Remember: The teachers are your friends, let them help.
Believe it or not, no matter how wonderful and effective the presenter’s message and activities may be a great number of adults / parents may be offended just by personal feelings of rejection “not being a good parent.” I remember back in the days when I heard many parents admitted in front of their children, their inadequacies and lack of opportunity as a child for not getting a good education. Many things they didn’t learn; therefore would readily correct and demand diligence from their children for a better life. Very few people are admitting any inadequacy in today’s society. Most of the reading materials are not written in a format that holds the attention of the parents who need it most, and a quick read. It is impossible to relate to a parent or anyone who feels offended or inadequate. Therefore, the approach must be “relationship focused” more so than teaching focused, or "telling focused." Environment and facilitator / teacher are “key” for a successful parenting program. Local church facilities could be an awesome location for familiarity, coupled with a “professional - humanitarian facilitator. “ All parent reading materials should be simple and loving in language and relevant to their everyday challenges and experiences. Most of the time, the information that is given to the parent who needs it most, language is “over their head” and does not connect. That could be why certain “unprofitable – non classroom connecting - written materials” are read more frequently. Most youth and adults are reading, question is: What are they reading? My experience has been that approach is a very valuable resource for effective parenting. Like the children, once a relationship has been earned, learning and advancement occurs for the entire family. I strongly suggest (1) Availability of selective short, to the point, real life reading materials (2) Series of short “follow up” relating FREE speaker’s topics / films - with ending refreshment & fellowship (3) Give parents options for continued communication. (4) Teacher / staff do general “How are you doing?” How can I assist you type follow up calls – Customer service. Most importantly - respect the scheduling and time of the parents when planning such events. Always start on time and end on time, regardless of the number in attendance. Read more in “School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12 www.resolved-2010.com
Chapter by chapter guidance is crucial for adults understanding the physical, social, emotional, and intellectual needs of children, regardless of their ages. All humans have the same needs. It is urgent that parents and caregivers are able to differentiate needs vs. wants and understand the consequences for not meeting a human’s needs. School Readiness for Parents & children, K-12 gives chapter by chapter, school life- answers according to Child Psychologist - Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
LifeLONG Benefits: School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12
Peace of Mind |Student Achievement | Confidence |Solutions | Results
Level One - Physical care of children: Diet, Bed rest, Clothing – dress code &essentials, Health issues and medication guidelines.
Chapter 1: Home Is Where the Heart Is
Level Two – Social-Safety: Etiquettes, Respect, Discipline, Social Laws – rewards & consequences
Chapter 2: Behavior Expectations for Effective Learning
Chapter 3: The School Handbook
Chapter 6: Count Up the Cost – Social Laws
Level Three-Emotional: Low self esteem, Positive self esteem, Needing to Fit In, Needs vs.Wants
Chapter4: Handbook Scenario
Chapter 5: Who Am I?
Level Four-Intellectual: Parenting, Mentor, Career planning, Networking
Chapter 3: Homework, a Family Effort.
Chapter 7: Parents: The Parents the Primary Career Coach
Level Five- Self Actualization -Personal Achievement: Realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences. Helping others to achieve self actualization
Chapter 8: Leadership in Action, Graduation