I Love My Child to DEATH OR I Love My Child to LIFE?
If discipline is teaching plus consequences and punishment is consequence only, how are parents to truly express love toward their children? Is love simply a reaction given from the parents for children to experience continuous, un-denied, present gratification, or is it a discipline for harvesting lifelong, fruitful benefits? When children engage in environments different from their primary home environment, they may tend to desire or agree with opposing values, fearing the guilt of not fitting in and give a quiet ear to those who present themselves as family friends, with an underscore of deception. Every day, adults tell children and adolescent,“to be confident and make firm positive decisions; stand up for what you know is right.... and so forth.” But, as adults grow older, they realize that peer pressure grows through life along with them. I ask again, are parents loving their children to LIFE or loving them to DEATH? WANTS -vs. – NEEDS continues to be a lifelong challenge. What is it that makes a parent weak in their knees to say “No” or “Later” to their children? Somehow, in today’s society, there is an irony between the in ability to restrain and the patience to persevere. What strong parenting issue have you had to stand firm, in opposition to those you love, for the betterment of your child? Or better yet, what gave you the strength to endure? The consequences and benefits of Wants vs. Needs in the lives of children – is further discussed in the book, “School Readiness for Parents & Children, K-12. The book, “UnResolved, The Blessing of A ReSolved Lifestyle” addresses unresolved adult childhood self-esteem issues that could overlap into future parenting styles. www.resolved-2010.com
As a parent, what is your take?